work/life balance

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What we call “Work” is how we spend most of our days. Our careers are made up of the hours which turn into weeks and then years and life flies by. We’re in the middle of it, yet have you ever stopped to think, what am I actually working for? Do you have the right work/life balance?


Modern society is so fast-paced. Technology has ramped up the speed of everything. We can get more done in less time, but what is the price we are paying?


In the pursuit of efficiency and achievement I believe the majority of us are actually losing ourselves and true happiness. We’re getting lost in the chaos of modern life and technology. We go on with the daily grind because that is the way society has taught us. We work long hours because that is what we think is expected of us. We keep climbing the ladder of success because we’ve unconsciously bought into the notion that life is about getting to the top and will be more fulfilling if we do.  

But to the top of what? What is the proverbial mountain that you want to climb? And why do you want to climb it? Is it really all for Money?


Most of us are just going through the motions, never stopping to question the “why” we do what we do, because that is the way it is. That is the path we have committed to, so we keep going and going.


The majority of us don’t ever stop long enough to get to the heart of the matter. We aren’t assessing whether the path that we are on is actually filling us up and giving us what we truly want. We aren’t stopping to consider whether we are living in alignment with our deepest desires and fulfilling the needs that will secure our true happiness. Most of us are either too busy for that, or the thought of living anything other than what we already know is simply too scary to consider.


Yet the truth is, we do have the power to do things differently, and that is the bit we are forgetting. We don’t have to buy into the model of success and striving that we have been born into. We don’t have to live our lives stuck on a treadmill, and I for one don’t believe we were created to do so even though I’m doing this very thing!


We have forgotten that if we give ourselves the space and moments of peace, we are all infinitely wise. We are forgetting to dream, to consider and to question. We are stuck in the doing, and many of us are going around and around like a rat on a wheel with no end in sight. We have forgotten that we are the creative agents in our lives and we have a say in how it goes.


If all of a sudden you woke up tomorrow knowing there were no more days left, would you be proud of the life you’ve been living? Or would you want to give yourself a little slap and say “you had the chance to do it differently you know.” Would you consider your life to be one well lived? Would you feel there had been enough living in your days?


Don’t put off asking yourself these big questions. These are the questions of real power that make a life meaningful and fulfilled with real happiness, love, achievement and a legacy your grandchildren will share for years to come.


This is why you should take advantage of the modern day employment laws and take that work/life balance. The right balance for you today will probably be different for you tomorrow. The right balance for you when you are single will be different when you marry, or if you have children; when you start a new career versus when you are nearing retirement.


There is no perfect, one-size fits all, balance you should be striving for. The best work-life balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives.


However, at the core of an effective work-life balance definition are two key everyday concepts that are relevant to each of us. They are daily Achievement and Enjoyment, ideas almost deceptive in their simplicity.


Darren Rapp – Associate Director


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